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Feather The
Love Nest
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To turn your bedroom (or
any other room) into an inviting and sensual arena for loving requires a
little thought and effort beyond the obvious. Forget the clichés, satin
sheets (what is satin anyway?- where does it come from?), mirrors
on the ceiling, or the opposite, all pink and heart-shaped cushions that
say "the 10 year old inside me has had a say in this".
If you're a woman, you
need to try and think at least a bit like a man about what he would
like the bedroom to be.
If you're a man, then
racing cars or racy posters aren't most women's idea of the right atmosphere.
You need to address all of your five senses
and see the bedroom in a new light, try to see it for the first time, forget
its yours and start from scratch. I'm not saying you should strip the walls
and throw the old bed away, but try to decide what is good and should stay,
what is long past its use by date, and what belongs in the spandrel*
(*spandrel
- the cupboard under the stairs)
Start by thinking of exciting, romantic,
erotic, places you have been to and see if you can use elements of what
make them so good in your own Love Nest. Suggested sex and eroticism usually
works better than blatant in-your-face-can't-ignore-it stuff - though that
can be good at the right time.
 | The bed.
Make sure that your bed is as comfortable as you can make it.
Buy good quality sheets and covers with a low synthetic fiber content.
The mattress though is the key to a comfortable bed. Natural down filled
duvets are much more comfortable and luxurious than the man-made alternatives.
Bed design - divan types with the mattress on top of a base may
not look the most exciting design concept, but compared to other more
sophisticated types with metal or wood sides and footboards, there's
far less to crack knees, elbows etc. on.
Colour of bedding - simple white is good, otherwise choose the
colour in the same way that you would choose clothes. Go for a colour
you look good in so that you look your best against it when your partner
gazes longingly at you.
Make sure there's plenty of pillows and cushions. A few good
quality pillows of the same type and size and then a collection of more
varied shapes, colours and fabrics / textures. Comfort is all important!
And finally on a practical note make sure the bed doesn't squeak
and that the headboard isn't loose and doesn't knock against the wall! |
| Ambience.
Very important this and as influenced by what you don't have as much
as by what you do.
No television - even if it's not on, it's a reminder of what
is or might be on now or soon. Also no other accoutrements of everyday
life, papers, magazines, the cat's basket (and the cat), stray clothes
(especially those that haven't quite made it to the laundry basket yet).
Think furniture showroom with extras rather than student room and you'll
be along the right lines.
Lighting - worth spending time and money on. Reflected or shaded
lighting is what you want, definitely not direct. Candles are romantic,
but not exactly the safest alternative. When clothes, cushions or sheets
start being tossed aside they may well prove disastrous!
Up lighting or lights shining on walls are ideal as they tend
not to cast unflattering shadows or dazzle the eye. The level of lighting
shouldn't be too low as you'll miss out on half the fun (ok, maybe a
bit less than half) dimmer switches help get the brightness just right. |
| Music - If music be the food of
love, play on...*
Music is the easiest way to change and elevate mood so make sure you
have some means of playing it in the bedroom, preferably through a system
discreetly out of sight and without too many flashing lights.
What to play is entirely up you of course, but your favourites
listening while driving along in the car or unwinding to at the end
of a hard day are not necessarily the most appropriate in the bedroom.
Don't make it too soothing as you may have the wrong effect! Ravel's
Bolero with rising rhythmical patterns is a classic of the genre that
you're looking for. |
(*Shakespeare
- first line to 12th night)
| Visuals
Something bright and eye-catching can liven up the room and spice-up
the atmosphere easily. Bright colours on the walls will suffice
as a start.
Prints or
pictures on the walls, throws or fabrics covering furniture or even
suspended from the walls / ceiling are a simple and non-permanent way
of adding interest that you can change easily when you feel like it.
Animal prints, leopard-skin prints, tiger, zebra etc. can add
a wild element though they're not for everyone.
Mirrors are a reliable way of spicing the atmosphere. Catching
a glimpse of the other-side of your partner in the mirror is a
great thrill especially when you're not expecting it, and brings out
the voyeur in any lover. Almost any size of mirror will do, but be wary
of placing it overlooking the bed directly - unless that's your thing. |
Plants and flowers
give a feeling of sensual organic abundance, life and (dare I say
it) fertility. Potted vegetation or more avant garde flower arrangements
give a more unrestrained feel, while Scented cut flowers are
particularly sensual. White lilies in particular are very fragrant,
and beautifully elegant.
| Tastes and smells
Don't go too overboard with perfume or scents. Perfumed oils wiped
across the top of a light bulb can send out subtle scents through the
room. Avoid spraying the sheets or pillows, you always end up with some
bits that are very concentrated and you'd be bound to discover them
at the wrong time! (cough cough).
Scented massage oils are a good way to entice the sense of smell
and very successful as a sensual starter.
Strawberries and whipped cream are the archetypal bedroom delicacies,
champagne or a fine wine in elegant glasses are an ideal start to
the evening. |
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